You might think that “they” are wrong, crazy, and psychotic and you have done nothing wrong to warrant such ridiculous behavior. Well, I challenge you to look at your own behavior, Ask yourself, did you poke the bear? Did you bring up something at an inappropriate time? Did you forget to clarify their feelings? Are you so angry about past events and you just want to get them back? So I ask you, what part of the argument should you own? If you made different choices would you get better results?