A friend told me that she used a feeling word. I said, “Great! What did you say?” She said she told her brother-in-law, “That’s not a nice thing to do,” as he threatened to put his hands all over her salad. So even though she used the word, “nice,” she still didn’t state how she felt. To learn more about these powerful feeling words, see pages 1 – 3 in my book. It’s my first activity because it’s such an important skill in achieving good mental health.